Hey girls! I'm back. I was reading this magazine and it came to my mind "Why didn't I write something like this?". The article was about the struggles of women who are taking the pills. In this case, I will be talking about the common struggles of women who are sexually active.
Believe it or not the moment you gave yourself away to a special person, that's when the time you'll know that being sexually active has it's downside too. The struggle is real and sometimes it's a matter of life and death. LOL!
1. For first timers, it's a knee weakening experience.
The horrifying fact is when both are inexperienced, so there's a possibility the condom slipped off while doing the deed or on the spur of the moment, no protection was used whatsoever.
2. Breaking the news to your friend or family.
Of course, you're not going to break the news to your parents (If they're conservative people), it's suicidal! Sometimes we all need someone to share our secrets to. It's a way to lighten up the burden and that's the job of our best friends.
3. Keeps forgetting to take the pill on time.
Nobody's going to remind you but yourself. Taking the pill on time is a serious matter. Forgetting to take the pill on time gives you a higher chance of getting pregnant. Girl, you may need an alarm clock to remind you all the time.
4. The search for the perfect hiding place of your pill packet.
If you're still living with your parents, you better be a genius on how to hide your private stuffs away from your siblings and your parents.
5. Peace of mind is not in your vocabulary.
Having a 1 day period delay scares the shit out of you. Even if the pill is 99.9% effective, you're pessimistic of the .1%. Sometimes you'll just have to give up worrying and believe in the power of science.
6. Hormones are out of control.
Your skin was perfectly fine before you took the pill but now you look like a chicken pox monster. The effects of taking the pill varies in women. Some will cure their acne problems or the reverse. The other effects of using the pill are breast tenderness, nausea, weight gain due to always feeling hungry and loss of libido.
7. You are now vulnerable to STI's, STD's or worst AIDS.
Even if you're in a monogamous relationship, there's no guarantee that you'll not get sexually transmitted infections or diseases. FYI, semen affects your vagina's ph level and it's advisable to wash your intimate area after sex or take a pee to wash off the semen. HPV (Human Papilloma Virus) is a kind of sexually transmitted disease which can be passed through mere skin contact by a person infected by it. A person would most likely to get HPV if he or she have sex at an early stage and performed sex with several partners before. Even if he or she is in a monogamous relationship at present, it's recommended that a sexually active woman must be vaccinated by HPV vaccine to protect her from cervical and vaginal cancer.
8. Torn between religion and science.
It's natural to feel guilty sometimes if you're raised believing the concept that premarital sex is a sin. Actually, this concept is a new Christian idea and just a way to scare us all because scientifically speaking, sex have its good and bad effect to the human person. Sex can open up a person's mind into a whole new level. Younger people have difficulties controlling their emotions since they're not mature enough to handle the situation which only adults or a mature mind can comprehend. Instead of focusing on their studies and well-being, teens will likely to have emotional problems especially if sex was shared with the wrong person. Some women even think that it's difficult or impossible anymore to find a person that will accept them after a break up once they've given up their virginity to their previous relationship. Girl, always put in mind that a man who truly loves a woman, her virginity is not an issue.
9. Single and horny.
When the hormone's raging and you have no outlet 'coz you used to do sex when you have the urge . Sadly, you're the type of person that hates masturbation and you're a sucker of having casual hookups because you easily fall in love.
10. Narrow minded people will label you as a whore or slut.
Close-minded people or shall I say hypocrites will judge you based on your sexuality. Stay away from these kind of people and just live your life. I also observe that virgins have unrealistic expectations while non-virgins tend to be more experimental in things that they do in life. Sometimes coming out of your sexual shell helps you build your confidence and release tension.